What do you do when your kids turn up the heat and your blood starts boiling? Be encouraged, mama. I promise there's a way to think of a better consequence EVEN when you are mad!. Step 1—> The Big Secret Weapon: Wait It’s the most effective method of solving a problem. It doesn’t matter how old the child is, you can’t administer an appropriate consequence when your blood is boiling. So the first step has to be to wait until you have calmed down.